To be Perfect or Imperfect the Choice is Yours!

"She sits by her window, gazing out at the garden, her mind running away, to a far away place. The place of perfection. The perfect house, the perfect family, the perfect career, and living the perfect life. Pop the day dream ends, her mind rushes back to the present, school, home, parents...the ideals of a twelve year old girl."

Why do we constantly search for perfection in everything, when deep down we all know its not there. Why does society push for us to be perfect? To have the perfect career/job, house, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, life, body, school exam results, friends, family...Nothing in life is ever perfect. This is what we need to explaining to the generations to come. Life is Life, its what we make it, not what we are expected to be!

If there was a thing such as perfection, we wouldn't have failed businesses, divorce, murder, theft, jails, war,  and the list goes on. So we already know that nothing in life is perfect, so how come its so hard to live a life that we are happy with and don't have to go searching for something that isn't there? This is a big part of the disordered eating and eating disorder world. That perfection is always searched for and as we can only really control our bodies, of what goes in it and out of it, we find that we get so caught up in the search for perfection that we forget that reality isn't what we think it is. Its a false sense of reality, that we are fed through social media and society that we should have the perfect body for summer, the perfect job, saying,  its the only way we will really be happy. Its not what life should be, its a matter of doing things that make us laugh, engage in, enjoy, share, and yes even argue about, be passionate about, and that is doesn't have to be perfect to work.

How can we break this on going wheel of looking for perfection in our lives? How do we come to understand that looking for what makes us happy is enough? How do we teach our kids and the coming generations that life is for living not searching for what is not there?

Take a moment or three and stop, look at yourself and see if you are still searching for the illusive world of perfection...if you are, please stop, take time to see that its not there, and that finding what makes you laugh and smile every day is enough, and that you are unique and different and don't need to be seen as being perfect or we all would be the same and that my friends is boring. We are different for a reason.

Have an awesome weekend everyone...

Hayley xx